Haha God you got jokes calling me out in my morning reading. I see how you doing me. Trying to get me all right and stuff. Go on then. Reveal.
Love is not selfish
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor. —Romans 12: 10
Selfishness and love are in constant opposition to one another. While love asks us to deny ourselves for the sake of someone else, selfishness compels us to focus on ourselves at their expense. Selfishness is like a disease that suffocates our capacity to love. When we choose self-centeredness, we become higher maintenance—more needy, overly sensitive, demanding. And then when we don’t get our way, we judge others harshly while being blind to our own faults.
Moodiness and complaining are selfishness in disguise. Laziness and irresponsibility are other masks it wears. Boasting and bragging. Being easily angered. Talking too much. Never listening. The list goes on and on. Even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive a reward.
The bottom line is this: you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself.